Every girl (or even boy) has their own timeline of when they will graduate, build their carrier, get married and have kids. Some of them have also picked out names for their kids.

Well, it all sounds great until and unless the day you get dumped.

This heart is something that cannot be explained in words. It cuts raw and deep. But if you think it through, this heartbreak is what helps you find strength, peace and happiness that only you are able to give yourself.

Whether you admit it or not but your relationships come with a hefty load of learning opportunities. Here are some of the dating insights that you will wish you knew earlier, but well, it’s never too late.

 

1. Nobody is Perfect

Of course, you must have heard about this ever since you have entered the dating arena, and there’s nothing new about this proverb. But here’s what we have to say regarding this: the imaginary prince charming or sleeping beauty that you have created in your head, yeah, they don’t exist!

By now you must have met tons of people, and there’s no such thing as a flawless person. Love is not a fairy tale. In reality, it’s very different and to tell the truth, it’s hard. Once you have realistic expectations, you will find it easier to spend time with people and make them one of your own.

 

2. You Always Come First

Always remember that you come first, no matter what! Even if you feel that you are selfish, here are some reasons why you should always put yourself first. Simply put, you need to take care of yourself a little bit more than others, and that’s how you can show love for others, too. And that’s not selfishness, that’s utterly essential.

Even if you think that your partner loves you just as much as you love them, you still need to take care of yourself; physically and mentally.

If you don’t do it, no one else will. Some people are very good at taking. And if those people enter your life and make whatever you have, you will have nothing left of for yourself!

 

3. Have Discussions, Not Fights

Even the happiest and most romantic couples fight. Face it. However, in adult relationships, it is very important to engage in discussions instead. Listen to each other. Have a productive dialogue.

Don’t throw things at each other or go on yelling from across the room. Take the time to straighten things out and hear what your partner is trying to say. On the other hand, this will help you and your partner understand each other’s feelings and thought process.

Do take note that you both must be kind and respectful to each other. Once you say something hurtful, the damage is already done.

 

4. Friends and Family do Matter

Apart from your partner, your friends and family are the ones who will be there by your side through thick and thin. Imagine one day your partner leaves you out of the blue. You would be left out with nothing but your friends and family members.

They are also the ones who will help you shape out about your partner’s character. And never ignore what they have to say regarding this. In tune with that, if you don’t like your partner’s family, get out of there right away! Seriously, immediately!

You become who you hang out with – you can’t deny with this statement. If you can’t seem to stand your partner’s friends or family members, there’s a legitimate issue in here.

 

5. Be Yourself

No good is going to come out of playing someone else’s role while you are dating somebody. If you think that you are not comfortable being who you are in front of your partner, take the hint, this is a red flag!

You can’t be living a fake life forever, can you? In spite of everything, if your partner cannot seem to accept you for who you are, chances are they are not worthy of you – for good, the bad and the weird.

 

6. You Deserve to be Treated with Highness

In the grind of life, don’t forget how much of a kind, loving and amazing person you already are. Don’t let your partner put you down. Your partner is supposed to support you to become a better person. However, while you are with them, if you feel like a scum of the earth, it’s seriously not OK! Walk away. You don’t deserve this type of behaviour.

 

7. Honesty is the Best Policy

If you ask us what does it take to maintain a good relationship? We’d say undoubtedly, it’s honesty and communication. You must be able to have a good open conversation with your partner. If that’s not possible, there’s bad news: you may need to reconsider being together.

You need to be able to communicate. If both of you are willing to communicate, only then take things to the next level. Both of you need to talk things through very comfortably, without awe.

A relationship means conquering the world together. Rather than working against each other, you must be able to work together. Once you and your partner master the art of listening to one another, you guys can possibly make through anything.

 

8. You Need to Feel Loved

Do you feel in-secured and unloved at times with your partner? Analyse. Analyse what’s going on between you two.

Just because both of you share “good morning” and “I love you” texts, doesn’t mean that you two are in love. Wake up from the fantasy and look at things practically.

Trust us, you can feel the love with your body. You will realise when you are loved. It’s like an electric shock sensation. You will be able to feel it in your partner’s kiss and the way they look at you. It literally is like rainbows and unicorns colliding all the time.

And that’s a very good feeling that can’t be described in words.

 

Final Words

Love is indeed blinding.

When couples say that they are being blindfolded while walking through the bed of roses, what they call life. They are actually right.

You just meet some. You find them pretty cool, handsome, super funny and so on. And before you can even realise, you already pull your heart out of your chest and hand it over to them. Ladies and gentlemen, this is what love is all about.

Over the years, you may have been in quite a few relationships, and even if you were not, you must have learned something looking at your friends’ relationships. They all seem perfect on social media, even when they are not so great in their real life. Why? That’s because starting things over is way more comfortable than actually making it through.

There are always glimmers of hope that everything will remain fine. Fortunately, for some of you, some things do turn out to be pretty well. And you finally have what you have been yearning for, a happily ever after…

For some, when things do change, don’t lose hope. At least you have learned a handful of lessons, which you are not going to make in your next relationship.

Thank U, Next!